Samantha Jones on Sex

Fifty Shades of Grey

The social main stream media has been buzzing with hype over "Fifty Shades of Grey" written by E.L. James which exudes erotic fiction to feed the sexual appetites and obsessing minds of a worldwide audience.    Gaining praise and criticism among critics, by some it is coined as mommy porn, chicken soup for the bored housewives, a lady's erotic how-to guide and labels that keep churning as this book keeps breaking world sales and distribution records.   So how special is this book?

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According to Amazon UK as of August 2012, the book has sold over 40 million covers worldwide while maintaining its position on USA Today's Best Selling list for over 20 weeks in a row. Acknowledging sexuality is a broad topic, this book's erotic genre zooms into the main character, Christian Grey's, fascination with BDSM.  Without compromising too much of the book, here are few previews of the anticipated film coming out in 2013.   Please note below are limited versions of the preview out since Grey fans have created their own montage to the upcoming erotic-filled adventure.  Soon readers will find out whether the impending movie does the book any justice.

As all the fans are running around trying to seek their Christian Grey -- have you found yours?

Save the best for last ...

Be VERY Careful What You Wish For

It’s that ideal job, ideal home or even perhaps that ideal relationship that one yearns for yet has no clue that there is no standard ideal in this world. If ladies are seeking a man with specific looks, income or lifestyle just remember that there is always a catch. The catch doesn't become apparent in the short term yet it surfaces over time in the long term. What is this catch one asks? It can range from settling with the wrong partner for the wrong reasons to being with a partner hoping they will change. Folks, people cannot change other people. People may influence other people though heed that change can only transpire from within or else — one will be waiting forever to realize that we can only work miracles on ourselves. Majority of us have a checklist for meeting our ideal mates, where we’re made to believe that every box on the list needs to be marked off to immune oneself from relationship problems. Not so. If an individual finds a mate that meets 80% of the characteristics they are seeking in a date, it is considered a healthy sign to proceed exploring the relationship further with this match.

It is not possible for couples to relate to one another 100% as long as there are two separate minds situated in the same air space, there is apt to be difference in opinion which ultimately leads to some situational conflict(s). Many couples perceive that conflict serves as a bad ingredient to a relationship but those who are smart to engage in conflict resolution can testify that 90% of the time it can only improve the state of the existing relationship. So how is the latter 20% accounted for when our prospect matches 80% of our checklist? It is the latter 20% that makes the relationship interesting from introducing the partners to different mindsets, lifestyles and challenges that nurture the dynamics of this evolving union. Is this 80/20 ratio valid for all couples? Not all the time. The ratio may vary in favor of the couple or it may not lead marriage counselors to believe that the 80/20 rule sets forth a healthy baseline from which a relationship can flourish. Among those couples that pass the 80/20 rule, these couples encountered less arguments yielding one down moment for every five positive moments spent together. It’s never too late to assess where one’s relationship stands so the proper measures can be implemented to move on forward with clarity leaving behind any remnants of uncertainty. Do you know where you stand?
(Courtesy of Ms. Wake Up)

Let Him Chase You Until You Catch Him

It was a few years ago this phrase had surfaced among the dating and reading circles. When one ponders over it, well...it is true that the man should pursue this lady in the chase as it captivates his attention and elates the sentiments of the lady. It is okay to become a challenge in the midst of being pursued though there is a clear line between playing games for Ms. Ooo La La  has never been a fan of playing games nor is this a platform for an endorsement of such. To interpret "let him chase you until you catch him' from a dignified perspective means that the man should make the effort in getting to know his object of affection, should be the one to initiate (leadership and chivalry never go out of style) and both smart individuals in this scenario know how to keep the power dynamics in balance if there are ever going to get to that first kiss, hmm perhaps a date. In essence it's not about winning a prize yet it's being able to hold and engage a lover's attention before one of them pops due to anticipation! Curiosity did kill the cat.
(Courtesy of Ms. Wake Up)

Sexe et Mort 101

Le Belle et La Bad Boy ~All Over Again

Watching Carrie grow never gets old, even eight years later.

Calling Birth Control!

People are either being chased or doing the chasing in the game of love.  Once caught in this maze of romance, lovers need to assess if they want to use birth control in their 'ooo la la' sessions or venture out au natural.   If one is not ready to hear the pattering of little feet, then perhaps using precaution is a wise choice.

Here are the most common forms of birth control:
Basal Temperature Birth Control
Pull Out Method
Condoms
Birth Control Pills
(Common pills are Yasmin, Ortho-tricyclen, etc.)

Courtesy: Google Images

A crying baby is the best form of birth control.  ~Carole Tabron

La Belle Et Le Bad Boy

Menage a Trois

It's unnerving enough when a woman hears her man utter another woman's name with lust and awe, when in fact the one in front of him is wondering what colorful thoughts are running through his mind.  A little game of musical chairs in bed or around his comfy loft invites the devout holy thoughts of engaging in a menage a trois.  Yes, exactly!   More men than women will voice their thoughts of steaming up their mirrors and windows by inviting additional company of a lover.  The third lover is the 'trois' in this scene.   Three people engaging in sex at the same time gets minds wandering with whom, where and at what pace. Does pace really matter?   If all three consenting lovers choose to audition for certain parts in this fantasy, rest assure this lucky man will be grinning for quite a long time!    As we travel off into his flickering brain, he's the man who basks in the glory while watching two ladies dance around his nether regions while holding their attention in this mirage.   Among hearing people engage in a debate over such zealous activities, inquiring minds agree it is best to establish rules before engaging in Ooooo's.

Courtesy: Google-Flickr, Menage a Toi

1.   Be open to the experience and be sensible.
      Remember three's a crowd and feelings can get hurt.

2.   Know your boundaries and be fair.
      Discuss what sexual actions are permissible or not.

3.   Keep it light and fun.
      Remember it's an experience more than a lifestyle for many lovers.

4.  Vacate judgement if possible.
     Some things in life are meant to be experienced than analyzed!

5.  Common sense rule:
     Practice safe sex unless you're ready to play the baby daddy game.

*Threesomes are not for everyone.
Some lovers in life are not meant to be shared! ;)

J'ai Envie de Toi

Courtesy: Les Infideles

"Didn't your mother ever teach you anything about staring?"-French Kiss, 1995 

Voulez Vous Coucher Avec Moi ce Soir, Mon Cher?

"I'm a bed breaker."  Oh really, we shall see!
Those seeking a change to their rendezvous style can consider assessing their bed's attributes to decide whether they need to embrace a new bed while taking 'ooo la la' to a new level.    Between plush pillows, satin sheets, soft scents, subtle breezes, smooth skin and robust bodies asking to be touched, Loverville requires its residents to swim in comfortable beds.  

Which type of bed do you prefer for your horizontal tango sessions?

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Ecoute-Moi, Ma Cherie!

It's about time to set the record straight, kegel exercises do work! Ask the men who experience the benefits of their ladies working out their lady parts as well men who practice them (yes, men do so as well) can perform better in the 'ooo la la' department. Kegel exercises enable women and men to work out the inner muscles of their treasures, yes, the vagina and the penis.

Ladies usually squeeze and release the muscles in the vagina, the same neighborhood where muscles to contract and release urine exist.   One set of exercise comprises of holding (contracting) and then releasing those muscles 10 seconds at a time. Sooo...

Hold for 5 seconds.
Release.
Hold for 5 seconds.
Release.
Hold for 5 Seconds.
Release.
Hold for 5 Seconds.
(Try increasing the hold time to 10 seconds as you get use to it).

Now do 10 sets of 5 above. In no time, you will be a Kegels pro!
Keep your lady parts firm, fit and fab!
As for men, click here to understand the Kegels phenomenon.

Ciao!

Encore une fois...

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"Men reach their sexual peak at eighteen.  Women reach theirs at thirty-five.  Do you get the feeling that God is playing a practical joke?" -- Rita Rudner

All Rise in Loverville!

Stop yawning and rise -- for going early to bed is over rated, not to mention a sin in Loverville. One can fore go the fear of tired eyes by trading in the yawning for 'ooo la la' goodies that grant a mesmerizing glow to the body and a powerful zing to the brain.    Where does one seek those 'ooo la la' goodies?    Sex toys have been popular for several decades yet research shows the first sex shop originated in 1962 in Germany, a trail blazer in the sex shop business before sex shops started sprouting in the United Kingdom, United States, Canada, Italy and locations.   These shops specialize in selling lingerie, sex toys...basically any paraphernalia that will enhance the pleasures of those engaging in sexual activities. Most of these shops are dual gender friendly, where as some may target audiences of specific sexual orientations.  Ultimately, these shops serve as modes of entertainment while engaging clientele to explore their sexuality on a broader platform.

Courtesy: Cracked
"Locking up Anderson"

Here is a list of few famous sex shops worth mentioning:
1.  Good Vibrations, San Francisco & Brookline
2.  Xandria, San Francisco
3.  Babeland, Seattle & Manhattan
4.  St. Mark's Place, Manhattan
5.  Ann Summers, United Kingdom

Yoga for Better Sex

Courtesy: Becky Back

Top Five Yoga Poses for Better Sex

1.  Downward Dog

2.  Tree

3.  Plank

4.  Cobra

5.  Bridge

Orgasmic Meditations

Olive Oil for Orgasms

Olive oil is not just oil -- it can be an elixir for those stuck in a rut in Loverville. The same Mediterranean component that grants us internal  health benefits such as anti-aging, smoother skin and a healthy glow can be a similar driving force behind granting longer lasting orgasms.    For those still scratching their heads, yes,  olive oil can be used for massage and a few hits of 'ooo la la'.

So if one is playing Taboo, here are your words:

Gliding, Riding, Moaning, Heat, Ecstasy

'Sex' anyone?

Courtesy: Essential Oils, ZA

....Like Another Hit of Expresso?

Thomas Crown: May I ask you a very personal question?
Catherine Banning: Why not.

Thomas Crown: Would you like another hit of espresso?
[Catherine looks confused.]
Thomas Crown: Would you..

Catherine Banning: ..like another hit of espresso, that's the very personal question?
Thomas Crown: That's as good as it gets.

Catherine Banning: Excuse me, may I ask you a very personal question?
Thomas Crown: Oh sure, by all means.

Catherine Banning: Do you really think I am going to sleep with the man I am investigating?
Thomas Crown: Is that the question?
Catherine Banning: Yes that's it.

Thomas Crown: Now why should I answer your question when you didn't seriously commit to my espresso?
Catherine Banning: All right, then I'll seriously commit to your espresso.

Courtesy: Text (TC Affair), Picture (Serious Eats)

It Takes Two to Tango!

'Ooo la la' comes in many forms yet there are times when 'Ooo la la' crosses one's path in sneaky and unforeseen ways allowing life to get a bit messy.   Infidelity has existed since centuries though in the last four decades, it's a topic many eyes and ears cannot ignore as uninvited romantic encounters outside an existing union jeopardizes the well being of all parties involved.

"Men make women messy."-Thomas Crown Affair

Yes, very true. Still...it takes two to tango.

Courtesy: Les Infideles, French Film

How many people cheat on their spouse? Below are some statistics, courtesy of Post Masculine, 2011.
-1997: 22% of men; 14% of women
-1998: 24% of men; 18% of women
-1998: 37% of men; 22% of women
-2002: 50-60% of men; 45-55% of women
-2003: 50-65% of men; 45-55% of women

-53% of the population, within United States,  will cheat on a significant other during their lifetime.
-Affairs effect 1 in 2.7 couples.
-Women under 30 are just as likely to cheat as men under 30. After 30, women are far less likely to cheat.
-98% of married men and 80% of married women admit to fantasizing about someone other than their partner.
-80% of women who suspect their spouse of cheating are correct; where as 50% of men are correct.
-65% of affairs end up causing divorce.

According to the Global Social Survey conducted by the National Science Foundation, less than 5% of men and 3% of women are unfaithful annually.

Courtesy: Entre Las Piernas, Spanish Film

It is wise to consider all views when inferring these statistics since there are many online sources that deliver "shock statistics" just to retrieve an upheaval in reaction on a global platform.  It would be nice if statistics on serial monogamy were included, where such relationships encompass partners engaging in a relationship until the next best partner comes along.   These serial monogamists spring from one relationship into another without taking respite to address their personal life matters thus granting the common man to fathom how these serial lovers acquire their new fish while busy with their existing 'other half', place holders (sound better?).  As this mess sorts itself out, 'Killing Me Softly' permeates the air while lovers play musical chairs.

O' Rumi

"I want to see you.

Know your voice.

Recognize you when you

first come 'round the corner.

Sense your scent when I come

into a room you just left.

Know the lift of your heel,

the glide of your foot.

Become familiar with the way

you purse your lips

then let them part,

just the slightest bit,

when I lean into your space

and kiss you.

I want to know the joy 

of you whisper

"more"

~Rumi~

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Sensual Biting

Ooh...Ahh...Mmm!  Sensual biting brings different sorts of pleasures to those who seek it and as well to those who offer their mighty mouths to navigate their beloved's body, part by part, gliding along this sensual journey in Loverville.   Being bitten or biting a lover is not everyones' forte, though  don't knock it until you've tried it!     It's best recommended to try this activity on a lover whom you know well rather than someone new on a first date. For not all people perceive biting past its primal instinct so do proceed with caution.    Some may perceive it to be a sadistic act while others may be open to releasing some steam with those sensual bites leading to a greater finale.   

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All those in Loverville, here are the do's and don'ts of biting:

DO

~Bite gently and keep it QUICK,  long bites are not sexy leaving your partner in pain rather than pleasure

~Remember you're playing Casanova, not Hannibal

~Bite in places that awaken the senses such the neck, the back, behind the knees, calves, the belly...

~Rotate the places where you bite, to keep the senses alert at all times

~Pace Yourself

DON'T

~Produce sound effects while biting, focus on the act and the response

~Bite random places

~Bite to make your lover bleed

~Ask how it feels after every bite

~Continue biting if your partner has voiced reservations with it

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Remember This...

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Eat Your Way to 'Ooo La La'

In honor of Valentine's Day,  lovers and players all alike, will indulge in some delicious foods that hopefully include a few aphrodisiacs.  
Remember with some foods, what you eat is what you'll taste like.

Just kidding, right? Nope! 

Top Aphrodisiacs:   Oysters,  Vanilla, Almonds, Chocolate, Figs, Bananas, Basil, Asparagus, Honey, Strawberries

Courtesy: FitBuff

Do You Know What You Taste Like?

Before you folks get any crazy ideas, know that we're talking about a very distinct taste, 'OneTaste'.  OneTaste is a 'slow sex' movement founded by Nicole Daedone in San Francisco, where she and her team research and teach singles, couples and more the essence of a true orgasm in female sexuality.  Though the OneTaste method may appear geared towards females, it engages men and women to understand how vital an orgasm is to one's self awareness and growth.   With a culmination of yoga, Buddhist, tantric and meditative practices, these elements enrich the mindfulness practice of clearing and awakening genital contact simultaneously, while OM participants project their sexual energy outwards by sharing the newly acquired state of nirvana with their partners.

So how slow is 'slow' sex? The OneTaste method dissects the process of sex into steps that lead to the ultimate orgasm, before doing so, couples are taught how one stroke at a time can lead to an enriching experience that transcends the physical state of intimate engagement.
Are you still curious to know what you taste like?

Courtesy: OneTaste.Us

Welcome

"Touche Moi Ici" is dedicated to all readers who are interested in enriching their life cocktails with a mix of sensuality, sexuality and more 'ooo la la'.    As Ms. Wake Up embraces the altar in "Break Up or Wake Up", she embarks upon a new adventure that welcomes everyone to lay back, relax and unzip those ...

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