November 1, 2012

Fifty Shades of Grey

The social main stream media has been buzzing with hype over "Fifty Shades of Grey" written by E.L. James which exudes erotic fiction to feed the sexual appetites and obsessing minds of a worldwide audience.    Gaining praise and criticism among critics, by some it is coined as mommy porn, chicken soup for the bored housewives, a lady's erotic how-to guide and labels that keep churning as this book keeps breaking world sales and distribution records.   So how special is this book?

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According to Amazon UK as of August 2012, the book has sold over 40 million covers worldwide while maintaining its position on USA Today's Best Selling list for over 20 weeks in a row. Acknowledging sexuality is a broad topic, this book's erotic genre zooms into the main character, Christian Grey's, fascination with BDSM.  Without compromising too much of the book, here are few previews of the anticipated film coming out in 2013.   Please note below are limited versions of the preview out since Grey fans have created their own montage to the upcoming erotic-filled adventure.  Soon readers will find out whether the impending movie does the book any justice.

As all the fans are running around trying to seek their Christian Grey -- have you found yours?

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October 4, 2012

Be VERY Careful What You Wish For

It’s that ideal job, ideal home or even perhaps that ideal relationship that one yearns for yet has no clue that there is no standard ideal in this world. If ladies are seeking a man with specific looks, income or lifestyle just remember that there is always a catch. The catch doesn't become apparent in the short term yet it surfaces over time in the long term. What is this catch one asks? It can range from settling with the wrong partner for the wrong reasons to being with a partner hoping they will change. Folks, people cannot change other people. People may influence other people though heed that change can only transpire from within or else — one will be waiting forever to realize that we can only work miracles on ourselves. Majority of us have a checklist for meeting our ideal mates, where we’re made to believe that every box on the list needs to be marked off to immune oneself from relationship problems. Not so. If an individual finds a mate that meets 80% of the characteristics they are seeking in a date, it is considered a healthy sign to proceed exploring the relationship further with this match.

It is not possible for couples to relate to one another 100% as long as there are two separate minds situated in the same air space, there is apt to be difference in opinion which ultimately leads to some situational conflict(s). Many couples perceive that conflict serves as a bad ingredient to a relationship but those who are smart to engage in conflict resolution can testify that 90% of the time it can only improve the state of the existing relationship. So how is the latter 20% accounted for when our prospect matches 80% of our checklist? It is the latter 20% that makes the relationship interesting from introducing the partners to different mindsets, lifestyles and challenges that nurture the dynamics of this evolving union. Is this 80/20 ratio valid for all couples? Not all the time. The ratio may vary in favor of the couple or it may not lead marriage counselors to believe that the 80/20 rule sets forth a healthy baseline from which a relationship can flourish. Among those couples that pass the 80/20 rule, these couples encountered less arguments yielding one down moment for every five positive moments spent together. It’s never too late to assess where one’s relationship stands so the proper measures can be implemented to move on forward with clarity leaving behind any remnants of uncertainty. Do you know where you stand?
(Courtesy of Ms. Wake Up)

Let Him Chase You Until You Catch Him

It was a few years ago this phrase had surfaced among the dating and reading circles. When one ponders over it, is true that the man should pursue this lady in the chase as it captivates his attention and elates the sentiments of the lady. It is okay to become a challenge in the midst of being pursued though there is a clear line between playing games for Ms. Ooo La La  has never been a fan of playing games nor is this a platform for an endorsement of such. To interpret "let him chase you until you catch him' from a dignified perspective means that the man should make the effort in getting to know his object of affection, should be the one to initiate (leadership and chivalry never go out of style) and both smart individuals in this scenario know how to keep the power dynamics in balance if there are ever going to get to that first kiss, hmm perhaps a date. In essence it's not about winning a prize yet it's being able to hold and engage a lover's attention before one of them pops due to anticipation! Curiosity did kill the cat.
(Courtesy of Ms. Wake Up)